Love is meant to be mutual not parasitic. If you keep initiating communication, it might mean your partner is not interested in the relationship.
You’re in love, so you want to do anything you can to make your partner happy.
Trust me, I have been there. You’ve opened up your heart, and you’re excited to have a deep connection with this person who seems so perfect for you.
You find yourself being selflessly available to your partner 24/7, no matter what you already have planned. When you’re in love,
the only thing that matters is being with this person.
Once I remember skipping a class because my boyfriend wanted to go out to lunch. I told him I was available and happy to join him. I didn’t consider my own obligations and priorities when he wanted to do
At the time, I didn’t realize I was setting the stage for a relationship that wasn’t healthy or balanced.
Maybe you see yourself in this scenario — willing to do most anything to spend time with your partner or win his or her affection and attention.
However, as time progresses, you realize that you are not getting the same time and attention you offer your partner so freely.
You don’t see much effort coming from the other side that demonstrates your partner feels the same way that you do.
Could you be in a one-sided
While not every relationship starts out one- sided, many wind up being this way. This can happen because one person continues to fall in love and the other person’s feelings stay stagnant.
It can also happen when you are involvedwith someone who is simply selfish or even narcissistic. This person believes the world revolves around him or her, and that includes any romantic partners.
If you think you’re in a one-sided relationship, you might want to consider getting out before the situation impacts your self-esteem and dignity.
As an anonymous person once said, “There comes a time when you have to stop crossing oceans for people who won’t even jump a puddle for you.”
In this kind of relationship, your needs will not be met, and you’ll always feel like you’re putting in more effort and time than your partner.
While studies show that 64.8% of relationships are more balanced, that still leaves a lot of one-sided relationships in the world.
Love is two-way traffic. Unfortunately, this is not always the case in most relationships. You might have realised that she or he does not seem to care about the relationship.
You can never ignore these signs if you want to keep the love strong.
Here are signs you’re in a one-sided relationship
1. You initiate most communication:
Are you the one initiating communication? Well, it means he or she does not care about the affair. The other partner is doing little to make the relationship work. Never ignore when your partner does not seem to do much in the relationship.
2. Your partner does not return most favours
Are you doing your best to make things work? There are times we do all we can to make things work but our partners do not seem to fight for us. If he or she does not return our favours, it means you are alone in the relationship. Partners should reciprocate the favours for the relationship to succeed.
3. When your partner spends more time with friends than you.
You need his or her presence to be happy. If he keeps spending time with his or her friends than you then something is amiss. There are possibilities that he or she is not interested in the love anymore.
4. He or she makes you apologize for everything
To err is human to forgive is divine. However, you do not need to ask for forgiveness for everything, especially if it was not your fault. Sometimes we feel like we are always wrong. This means the relationship is one-sided.
5. He or she does not care about relationship problems
Relationships have endless challenges. If he or she does not find solutions to the issues, you are alone. The two of you have to seek solutions together for the relationship to work.